Marriages and Monies
mine was a love marriage, and as always happens in a love marriage (atleast in most or for some time), one gets disowned by the family.
As the selfish materialistic freak that I am, the primary concerns that I had (note the past tense, pls):
a. No Working Capital Funding from in laws (Read Dowry)
b. you are out of Dad's "Who should I distribute my property to" list.
Tackling concern a was more important to me, as i thought point b will take some time, and i will be able to convince him of the otherwise.
Folks, dont get me wrong, i am not one of those MCPs who torture their wives to fleece monies. That was not what i meant. I always looked at this concept as a credit line given by the in laws to get the affair going. And well, when you fall in love (thats the only fall where the power of gravity is a trillion times stronger) and run away to marry (so now you know the circumstances), it would be a wild and wicked thought to expect a credit line. Well, i dint. In lines with the 'grapes that are out of reach are sour' story i kind of convinced my self not to expect any monetary benefits anyways, and have lived off my own money earned through donkeys labour ever since, and have lived with the fact pretty comfortably till sometime back.
It was then when one of my friends got married, and i got a whiff of the deal. boy, he landed up with a honda city, a house and some loose change to the tune of 6-7 lacs, not to mention the gold that the girls parents 'lovingly' gave her for marriage. imagine what i would have felt. Yeah yeah, i love my wife and all that , but the bugger just ended up with what half a crore of fixed and moving assets, and all this for two words " I Do"?? I dont, i just dont understand, though it a little too late in life to go back and ask, but i keep jovially mentioning about a house et al for the dowry that i missed to my in laws, just arrows in dark, one hits the mark and i end up with some assets, great.. yucks yucks.
I started digging this thing a little deeper, and bad news was pouring in from every quarter. Hey, did you know R got married? I say, ya i got the invite, couldnt make it though. How much did get? and bing comes the reply (fast as in fast) Oh, a car and 50 sov gold, and 5 lacs. the depressometer in my head is just rising. another guys says hes off to the Switzerland for honey moon, and i say, Champ, its summer, and u wont find any snow where you are going. He says, what the heck, its switzerland, and its on sasur the asur's money. I mean, what's with this dowry thing man, where is that I will stand on my own feet and live concept (the same one i use to reconcile to the potential earnings lost in lieu).
anyways, i just pat them on the back and say, enjoy pal and get on with my life ....
As the selfish materialistic freak that I am, the primary concerns that I had (note the past tense, pls):
a. No Working Capital Funding from in laws (Read Dowry)
b. you are out of Dad's "Who should I distribute my property to" list.
Tackling concern a was more important to me, as i thought point b will take some time, and i will be able to convince him of the otherwise.
Folks, dont get me wrong, i am not one of those MCPs who torture their wives to fleece monies. That was not what i meant. I always looked at this concept as a credit line given by the in laws to get the affair going. And well, when you fall in love (thats the only fall where the power of gravity is a trillion times stronger) and run away to marry (so now you know the circumstances), it would be a wild and wicked thought to expect a credit line. Well, i dint. In lines with the 'grapes that are out of reach are sour' story i kind of convinced my self not to expect any monetary benefits anyways, and have lived off my own money earned through donkeys labour ever since, and have lived with the fact pretty comfortably till sometime back.
It was then when one of my friends got married, and i got a whiff of the deal. boy, he landed up with a honda city, a house and some loose change to the tune of 6-7 lacs, not to mention the gold that the girls parents 'lovingly' gave her for marriage. imagine what i would have felt. Yeah yeah, i love my wife and all that , but the bugger just ended up with what half a crore of fixed and moving assets, and all this for two words " I Do"?? I dont, i just dont understand, though it a little too late in life to go back and ask, but i keep jovially mentioning about a house et al for the dowry that i missed to my in laws, just arrows in dark, one hits the mark and i end up with some assets, great.. yucks yucks.
I started digging this thing a little deeper, and bad news was pouring in from every quarter. Hey, did you know R got married? I say, ya i got the invite, couldnt make it though. How much did get? and bing comes the reply (fast as in fast) Oh, a car and 50 sov gold, and 5 lacs. the depressometer in my head is just rising. another guys says hes off to the Switzerland for honey moon, and i say, Champ, its summer, and u wont find any snow where you are going. He says, what the heck, its switzerland, and its on sasur the asur's money. I mean, what's with this dowry thing man, where is that I will stand on my own feet and live concept (the same one i use to reconcile to the potential earnings lost in lieu).
anyways, i just pat them on the back and say, enjoy pal and get on with my life ....
posted by Appu at 11:48 AM
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listen mate... it's hard to remain distinguished among the crowd. and remember one thing, may be they have got so many things... but you have choosen not to take dowry( for whatever reason!!!:P)
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